Mons veneris: the pubic mound, located above the vulva
Labia majora: the larger outer lips of the vulva
Clitoral hood: the ‘foreskin’ covering the clitoris
Clitoris: the most sensitive part
Labia minora: the smaller inner lips of the vulva
Vagina: where intercourse takes place

1. Just as men do, women like to be teased. So don’t dive straight in, start out by kissing, stroking or licking her breasts before moving slowly down to her genital area.
2. When you get there, keep teasing. Try kissing and licking her thighs or blowing gently on the entire area around the vulva. Anything goes as long as it feels good, so ask her what she likes while you’re trying things out.

3. As the clitoris is extremely sensitive, don’t try stimulating it directly straight away and when you do, tongue it lightly or rub gently with well-lubricated fingers.

4. Remember, many women are sensitive about their bodies, particularly when it comes to oral sex. And, like penises, vulvas vary enormously – there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ shape or size for the clitoris or labia for example. So, if you sense she’s tense, telling her how special and sexy her body is will help her relax.

5. As well as talking, listen. Before you begin, encourage her to tell you what turns her on at all times.

6. Before you start stimulating her clitoris, try putting your tongue inside her vagina and moving it in and out.

7. Now check the clitoris to see how excited she is – like the penis, stimulation will make it hard enough to extend out of its ‘foreskin’.

8. When you feel she’s ready, start paying serious attention to her clitoris. Gently pull the labia apart then flick your tongue gently and repeatedly over the clitoris. When you sense she’s getting close to orgasm, shape your mouth into an ‘O’ and suck the clitoris, sucking deeper the closer she gets.

9. Lots of women also like the extra stimulation of fingers during oral sex – that might mean reaching up to stroke her breasts or using them inside the vagina and even the anus.

10. And finally…be open about it all. A shudder or a moan can mean discomfort as well as pleasure, so keep asking questions all the time. Some women find oral sex more satisfying than intercourse, so if you get it right you’ll be more than appreciated!